Mature Love: Canada vs. Norway

Cougars are on the Prowl

You might say cougar dating was pioneered in Canada (especially by Avid Life Media) , it’s been prime that long. And it took a while, however slowly but surely the European nations, in particular Norway, have joined the hunt for the wise and erotic cream of the mature dating crop.

So what defines a cougar?

Well the cougar I’m talking about isn’t a cat; not exactly anyway.

Cougar dating is older women, younger men, casual sex dating; and it’s hot right now and shows no signs of letting up. Guys – just think Desperate Housewives – and of course Soap Operas are loaded with it for well-to-do guys and gals.

Cougars began years ago just referring to older women; say over 40. So unhappy woman in broken relationships or having just gone through a divorce, single moms with older children or widowed; that were often very wealthy and weren’t afraid to get plastic surgery to fight aging. These cougars typically like to shop, and spend their days getting pampered at the spa; in other words they’re very vain, good looking, and spoiled rotten women that have never worked a day in their lives.

You can spot these women a mile away and my guess is you personally know at least one.

·       Looks like they just walked out of the salon

·       Nails painted and wear expensive clothing a jewellery

·       Designer handbag and pooch in hand

·       Big fancy sunglasses

·       Sparkly high heels

·       The “look” to make sure everyone in staring at them

Over time the “cougar” has evolved somewhat and pushed the online dating world in a whole new direction.

Dating sites and apps for cougars are popping up all over the place, and not just in Canada, Norway is gaining ground too. This European country seems like it just pushed through the barrier of conventional courtship into the online dating world; now it’s shifted yet again into the electric online cougar dating world.

Nettavisen.no has been reporting a 58% growth on a cougar dating platform such as c-date. For Norwegian speaking people here the quote and the article:

“Cougarfenomenet er når kvinner dater yngre menn. Denne trenden skal ha blitt svært populær på den største Europeiske datingtjenesten C-date. Totalt er økningen blant kvinnelige medlemmer i alderen 35-45 år på 58 prosent siden i fjor.”

And we’re not talking a few years younger; Madonna for instance often dates guys 30 years younger; Jennifer Lopez follows suit. Think about it…What’s a guy got to lose? A beautiful woman that’s rich beyond your wildest imagination that just wants to get nasty and feel young; sounds good to me!

How come cougar dating is so popular?

Many older men, younger men, and very young men find pleasure in dating cougars because they are more skilled in the bedroom. To get better at anything you need to practice; and boy do cougars have practice; and guys tend to think with their smaller head and love that.

Older women don’t have the insecurities of younger women; to skinny, too fat, too muscular, too tall, you get the idea. Cougars are confident in their body at that is freakin sexy. You don’t have to have the perfect figure, you’ve just got to feel good about it.

The mind is a powerful thing.

More and more guys don’t want to have to worry about the pressures of kids and committing; which makes a cougar the perfect casual sex, no strings attached relationship.

For older women, they’re looking for excitement in the bedroom. They want to feel young and appreciated, sexy and alive, spoiled and worshipped, accepted and admired for who they are not everything they aren’t.

No strings means cougars can confidently and without guilt try as many flavours as they like. The only rules are the ones you make and there’s no stress about becoming the wicked step-mom because your boy-toy is likely still in school and has zippo kids.

This all sounds pretty appealing and hence the massive explosion in online cougar dating sites.